'Yearning patient Give porn'

Employees often get signals that the elderly, sick or disabled persons in need of sex and intimacy. Yet informs that 54 percent rarely or never been to. The professional association V & VN who did the study find it taboo 'distressing'.

,, It can not be that sexuality at the threshold of the hospital, nursing home or home care ceases to exist, '' said Francis Bolle of V & UN. Need ,, belongs to sex in life. That does not go away as you get older, you are ill or disabled. ''

ignored

The need express them in various ways. An innocent request for a hug or kiss to unwanted touching. Often these signals are not picked up or ignored, while the right moment to make it negotiable, says Bolle.

,, A mentally disabled often experience feelings of excitement. It can happen that masturbates in a place that is not desired. This is often seen as a problem rather than searching for a place where he can retire. ''

Psychiatric patients or people with dementia can just show pretty sexual behavior. ,, You have to deal with it very differently. One must invite you to talk about it, the other should slow down you. ''

Threshold
According Bolle is given little attention in training on this subject. Moreover, nurses and carers relatively young as they roll in the box. This makes the barrier to talk to clients about sex later.

Bolle: ,, I started quite young and nurse. When I was a young boy had to wash up after a car accident, he got an erection. I said I found it quite difficult. He was ashamed too. It aired on order is right to talk about. ''

office hour
A majority (71 percent) of respondents see the discussion of sexual health as part of their profession. But healthcare institutions often have no (obvious) policies, say 86 percent.

Some institutions are using sex workers for clients and patients. Rijndam Rehabilitation in Rotterdam has a weekly office hours for problems in the field of sex and intimacy.

,, The need is great, '' said Bolle. ,, People may have to deal with erectile dysfunction or impotence after an accident or medical treatment. Then love life is something you should discuss with the patient and his partner. ''

Also, settings are not configured to meet the need. There are only single beds, doors are not locked and privacy is hard to find. Some experts advocate double beds or a separate 'room' in nursing homes so that residents can spend time with their partner. ,, Institutions must radiate that sex is negotiable. It's about simple things. Do not come uninvited into the room, but in first knock on the door. That happens sometimes. ''

Aggression
Organizations called last year in a manifesto on intimacy and sexuality to be back in training. They also argue for more privacy. D66 MP Vera Bergkamp called Secretary of State Martin van Rijn to include it in his care plans.

,, We are in our profession constantly intimate with people busy, '' said Bolle. ,, We dress them, wash them, but the most part, sex and intimacy, do not come to the fore. ''

Ignoring sexual needs can lead to increased aggression and intimidation against unwanted caregivers. More than one in three is confronted with sexual harassment. ,, Some clients are lonely. If they can not get rid of their sexual needs, those feelings are projected onto us. That you better for it. If they are helped with privacy, a hotel room, porn or sex worker, you help prevent other problems. "

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